On expanding a disagreeable situation into a sandlot rhubarb
Feb 10, 2006 09:36 AM
by Bill Meredith
Welcome to theos-talk. I will try, with the best of intentions, to say
some things that I would want someone else to say to me in a similar
Or perhaps, we need to learn to stand on our own two feet and give
others time and space to learn to stand on their own as well.
In the end, this site is the responsibility of everyone. If we want a
civil site, we can't expect the moderator to babysit us, we have to
stand up for one another.
< When bad behavior is exhibited, we might
have to hiss a little bit. Don't be afraid to call someone out for
bad behavior, the rest of us will back you up.>
Recognizing bad behavior in others seems easier than recognizing our own
bad behavior. Who is "the rest of us?" This choice of words and tone is
expected on a children's playground or in a gang-infested neighborhood,
but seems somehow out of place here.
The original difference of opinion about whether HPB was being treated
as a deity was between Bart and Carlos. Bart's ML quote was something
for Carlos to consider and then dismiss or take to heart. It was for
Carlos that Bart wrote. Perhaps Carlos wrote to you privately and ask
you to "stand up for" him? For whatever reason, in choosing a side and
creating a dispute where none existed before, you did not hasten a
peaceful resolution, but instead your "bad behavior" made room for
expanding a potentially disagreeable situation to include additional
issues now solely between you and Bart. That you have a gift for words
is undeniable, but perhaps in the future you might restrain your ego
long enough two brothers to reach an acceptable solution between
themselves? Consider this: two wrongs will not make a right, but
together they may make a catastrophe.
This whole situation is making for some strange bedfellows.
As for me, Bart is a friend and it pains me to see him treated this
way. Still, I know Bart and when he is wrong he will apologize, not
because it has been demanded of him, but because it is the right thing
to do. Bruce, I can't say that I know you that well........yet.
Now, hopefully no one will view this post as an attack upon you and
feel the overwhelming urge to stand up for you by writing a post
attacking me. That would be a further mistake.
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